Most of the time both girls and guys are always asking questions: “does she or he like me?” “What are the signs of ones affections?” “How do I know we would be right for one another?” “How can I get his or her attention?” all are very valid questions, yet all have one answer that has been used for years, “Just ask!” Granted it may be hard to do and a bit nerve racking but still it’s probably the best thing you could do, yes you may get rejected but in life, rejection is a given weather you like it or not. But the rejection becomes your strength, it becomes something that you would be immune to, yes rejection hurts and it leaves a scar, but scars through out time disappear and become something of the past.

Now remember just because some guy rejected you don’t try to find ways in why, just face it, you’re not their type. We all of types, you wouldn’t want a shirt that your mom pulled off of the rack that looked like an old gal from the 80’s would wear, no you wouldn’t, instead you would look for yourself and try to find the type of shirts that would suit your taste. Same goes for everyone ells that has rejected one or more people, they just would rather find someone whom they find to be more of their taste. But promise me my dear readers don’t doubt yourself or burden yourself with questions that you just can’t answer, and to be honest they shouldn’t be; unless you have issues with stalking then yes your question of “why doesn’t he like me” should be answered. Now don’t get yourself into a depression to the point that you start to sit in the kneed poison on the couch eating Hagen Daz and Oreos, watching sad pathetic sappy romance movies where every girl gets the guy in the end, and vise versa. Try to take a brake from the dating scene and stop trying to find a guy, he’s out there but he’ll come to you, and guys… the same thing goes, if you stop searching you’ll be able to find what you’ve always been looking for, and don’t think I’m a hypocrite because if you think about it, in a small way you are still technically searching.

Now don’t lower your standards because standards are remarkably helpful when it comes to wanting the right guy or girl, standards are what helps a person from making the biggest mistake in their lives. One of the most popular questions that I have heard other girls ask their girl friends is “what do guys look for in girls?” most likely you would assume that guys look for the type of girls who are thin fitted and in most cases have pretty much nothing to show from front to back, and half of the time guys would say yes the body is important, but those guys are the ones you should run far away from. No offense but guys stop being so stereotypical when it comes to girls, just because they look hot and have a great body doesn’t mean that their personality is just as hot, most of the time they are stuck up gals who know that they got what men want which can cause their personality to become not so pretty. If you want that question to be answered, here’s my answer: “again just ask” every guy is different and every guy wants something different.

Guys open your minds a little more far from the looks factor, look first at the girls personality and how they react towards certain little things, do they jump up and down of excitement when they see something like a mixed vodka drink? Or do they scream of happiness saying purple elephant over and over again? If so I give you the same advice, run fast and run far, try looking for girls who don’t act childish because they think that would make them unique, look deeper, look for girls who really are unique and who really want to show you who they are, not in the sexual way. When looking for a girl it’s important that you notice the little things that she does, like how she mouths the words as she reads to herself or something similar to that. Try to think to yourself if both your personalities will work together or would they become a train wreck? Thinking first of what you like instead of what your friend in your pants likes will help you in the long run, literally, and both you and your friend will be satisfied.

Though finding some one is hard and stressful and depressing at certain points, it doesn’t mean that you’re not capable of being liked by another person of the opposite sex. Girls don’t blame the guy and find his faults, he’s not to blame, and guys don’t blame the girls either. Neither sex is to be blamed when it comes to finding the right person that you will be able to live with, the one you’re looking for is there, he or she is just not ready to be found. I know it sounds funny but it’s true. The key to finding some one is patience.